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Join the “Create A Jewish Legacy” Program and Donate to “The TBEMC Legacy Circle”

Some of TBEMC’s Create a Jewish Legacy donors gather at the Jewish Federation of Greater Metrowest CJL cocktail party.

Temple Beth-El Mekor Chayim is pleased to announce our participation in the Create a Jewish Legacy program and the launch of The TBEMC Legacy Circle, to recognize those wonderful members who have provided for our synagogue’s future by including TBEMC in their estate plans. If you would like more information about The TBEMC Legacy Circle, please contact the Temple office.

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Torah Study Series at TBEMC with Rabbi Goldstein

Rabbi Goldstein’s Torah study series will resume this Thursday, October 30th at 11:30 a.m.
Everyone is invited to join the weekly class for discussions on a array of subjects, Torah, Parsha of the Week, Current Events, Philosophy and more.  Each week explores a different topic led by the Rabbi.  Please come as often as you can, get together with other TBEMC friends and study together.
If you have any questions feel free to call the office at 908-276-9231

We will rejoice again

Yesterday on Facebook, Rabbi Goldstein shared his thoughts about what is going on in the world. His words echo how many of us feel but also remind us to continue to hope, to continue to have faith.

Thank you Rabbi Goldstein for sharing.

In the past 24 hours, the AP has reported that Israeli’s killed a Palestinian (ignoring the fact that he purposely drove into a crowd), and Qatar has been elected to the UN Human Rights Council.

To say that I am saddened by these events is to ignore the anger, the rage that I feel. Time and again this world has illustrated it’s hatred against Israel (and yes, Jews).

I know that I am not alone in feeling helpless and angry. I know that my job as a rabbi is to try to give hope to people. But there are days when rabbis feel hopeless as well.

I know that I am unable to fix this problem. I hope and pray that this world will come to its senses; that some day good will win out. For now, all I can do is express my solidarity with those feeling frustrated and angry. While I may tilt at windmills, I know that i cannot move mountains. All I can do is to try to increase God’s presence in this world by helping those around me, and by trying to improve my corner of the world.

To all those feeling similarly today, you are not alone. Don’t give up; we can never give up.

The people that walked in darkness
Have seen a brilliant light;
On those who dwelt in a land of gloom
Light has dawned.
You have magnified that nation,
Have given it great joy.
Isaiah 9:1-2

We have known dark times before, but we have seen great joy as well. We will rejoice again.

Rabbi Benjamin Golstein

October 23, 2014

Rabbi Goldstein to be honored by Jewish Family Service

Please join us in wishing Rabbi Goldstein a hearty Mazal Tov for being one of the two Central NJ rabbis  being honored by Jewish Family Service of Central NJ at their annual gala dinner on November 23 at Crystal Plaza in Livingston, NJ.

Rabbi Goldstein, a Rabbinic Leadership Honoree, has been instrumental in the growth and development of TBEMC over the past 4 years. TBEMC is proud of Rabbi Goldstein and wish him continued success.

Go to the Jewish Family Service of Central, NJ website  more information on the dinner or to place a congratulatory advertisement in honor of Rabbi Goldstein.


Taste of Fall Kabbalat Shabbat Dinner

There is still time to register for the Chesed Connection’s Taste of Fall Dinner. Help kick off Cantor Kintisch’s installation weekend with a home cooked meal featuring:


Seasonal veggies

Veggie chicken nuggets and pasta for the kids

This is an incomplete menu! The chefs are hard at work and are using high quality, delicious fall inspired ingredients. Don’t miss it! Email to reserve your spot

Individual $18

Family (up to 4) $36

taste of fall 2014

The TBEMC Men’s Club is proud to announce our honorees for 5775.  

Our Man of the Year is David Schwartz.  David has been a member of our club since joining the Shul in the early 1970s.  He has held many positions in our shul including Board of Education President, 1st,2nd and 3rd Vice President and is currently the High Holiday committee chairman.

Our Youth of the Year is Alana Taub.  Alana has been helping lead services along with reading Torah and Haftorah since being Bat Mitzvahed.  Among other things ,she has also volunteered in the Temple office helping out the office staff.  She is currently a freshman at Rutgers University.
We will be honoring these two individuals at the Northern NJ Regional Man & Youth of the year dinner on November 5th at Congregation B’Nai Tikvah in North Brunswick NJ.  If you wish to join us, please email myself ( or Lance Kandl ( ) for more information.  If you wish to put in a congratulatory message in the Man & Youth of the Year Ad Journal, I have information on that as well.
Join me in wishing David Schwartz and Alana Taub a Mazel Tov.
Craig Schwartz
Men’s Club Co-President

Cantor Installation Weekend

Join us throughout the weekend, October 24-26 for the installation celebrations in honor of Cantor Kintisch.

Friday, October 24

6:30 pm Friday night service led by Cantor Kintisch

Fall Harvest Dinner Sponsored (and cooked) by The Chesed Committee

RSVP to by 10/21/2014

Saturday, October 25

Kiddush in Honor of Cantor Kintisch following Services

Sunday, October 26

9:30 am Coffee Hour Sponsored by Mark and Debbie Kaplan

12:00 pm- Plant spring bulbs with Cantor Kintisch

1:30 pm Official Installation


Cantor Recital

Coffee and Cake Reception

“Letters to President Clinton – Biblical Lessons on Faith and Leadership”

Please join us a TBEMC for an installment of the author tour sponsored by the Jewish Book Council. Rabbi Menachem Genack will discuss his book “Letters to President Clinton- Biblical Lessons on Faith and Leadership”  With a foreword by President Clinton, this book is a collection of correspondence between Rabbi Genack and President Clinton, including divrei Torah the rabbi sent the President regarding a variety of the issues of the day, and the President’s comments on these lessons.

Date: November 2, 2014

Time: 9:30 am

Location: Temple Beth-El Mekor Chayim

338 Walnut Avenue Cranford, NJ 07016

$15 if space reserved or paid in advance

Checks made out to TBEMC – Memo: Book Event November 2, 2014

$18 at the door

For more information about the event, please contact Teri via email at

Rabbi Goldstein’s Yom Kippur Yizkor Sermon

One of my favorite parts of my job is that I get to play. Being a rabbi in this community, I get invited to go talk to a lot of different groups of people. One of my favorite invites that I get is to go celebrate Shabbat at the JCC preschool in Scotch Plains. Spending a Friday morning, celebrating Shabbat with these hundred kids, seeing them sing Shabbat songs and bless the candles…it fills my heart with joy and makes me hopeful for our future.

I want to tell you a story of one such Shabbat. Now normally, I go and do my thing and have fun. But one Thursday evening I got an email reminding me that I was coming over the next morning to spend Shabbat with the preschoolers. In the email, it said that the theme of Shabbat was Gemilut Chasadim, acts of loving kindness.

So here was my challenge, to talk to preschoolers about being nice.  Okay… Talking to toddlers about being acts of loving kindness is like…well actually, I don’t even know to what it compares. It seemed to me that it would be like talking about nuclear physics to a group of ducks. I love children, but at times, asking kids to share and treat each other nicely is a difficult if not Sisyphean task.

As I woke up the next morning and went to the JCC, I was at a loss for how to talk about gemilut chasadim with any more depth than, it’s nice to share. I sat down in the back of the room and waited to be introduced. As I sat there I looked around at the kids. I saw them having fun, playing around (they probably should’ve been listening, but that’s okay). And then I noticed a boy wearing a batman t-shirt. Then I saw another one wearing a spider-man t-shirt and yet another couple of kids wearing superman t-shirt.

When it came my turn to talk to the kids, I asked them if they like superheroes. From the roaring response I got back, you might’ve thought that I’d asked them if they’d like ice cream or to watch TV for the rest of the day. I asked them if any of them wanted to be superheroes, and all of a sudden they went silent. They were shocked that they could be superheroes. One of the kids puffed out his chest and shouted, “I am a superhero!” And I said, “That’s right, you are!” And then I lowered my voice and leaned forward. I asked them, “So, do all of you want to know how to be superheroes?” Of course they did.

I told them the way to be a superhero was not to leap tall buildings in a single bound. It’s not about being invisible or having to save someone from a villain. They can be superheroes by saying something nice, by giving their friend a compliment, or making them feel better when they are sad. They can be superheroes by sharing and giving to each other. They can be superheroes by the effect they have on other people’s days and lives.

And you know something? They got it! For the next few minutes we practiced being superheroes and I heard them giving compliments to each other and even to their teachers. It was an amazing sight.

I’ve always loved superheroes. Since I was a kid I had comic books and viewfinders filled with stories of ordinary people being thrust into the spotlight and given a chance to be heroes. I read of people triumphing over their limitations for the betterment of their city or the world.

I want to tell you about a superhero; an eight year old superhero who was just like any other boy. His name is Sam Sommer and he is in fact a superman. The son of two Reform rabbis in Chicago Illinois, this boy became a hero to so many of us. In June 2012, Sam was diagnosed with acute myelogenous leukemia, AML. Many of us who followed Sam did not know him personally. We knew his parents; or we felt we did. You see, his mother and father kept a website and blog that detailed everything that Sammy was going through, what the entire family was going through. They wrote eloquently and heart-breakingly about their son’s struggle for survival.

Last December Sammy lost his battle with Cancer. He died on December 14th surrounded by his family. Thousands of people from across the United States and all around the world found ourselves crying for a boy we’d never met. We found ourselves unable to sleep because this superhero was gone.

Over the course of his short life, Sammy affected so many people. People all over found themselves drawn to this family. People from all walks of life hugged their children a little closer because they were reading of a family that was struggling. But what made Sam a superhero was not only the fact that he battled so valiantly, it was not the fact that he was an extraordinary boy. In fact, he was in every way an ordinary boy. But every ordinary boy and every ordinary girl is extraordinary. Sammy’s battle made us appreciate the small things in life, whenever Sammy’s mother wrote about the less than perfect aspects of her son, we could smile and relate. And we cried all the more so.

Sam died in December of last year, and this past April, at the most recent Central Conference of American Rabbis (CCAR) Convention they held an event called “36 shave for the brave.” The plan was for 36 rabbis to shave their heads and to raise money for pediatric cancer research. In the end, over 70 rabbis shaved their heads. And this once modest fundraiser raised over 654,000 dollars for pediatric cancer research.

Sam Sommer was a superhero. In his short time on this earth, his amazing spirit has inspired people to become better parents, and to appreciate life more. His struggle has led us to pledge that we will continue his legacy and continue the fight against cancer in his honor and memory.

We don’t need to be invincible or live forever to be a superhero. We don’t need to live to the rabbinically proscribed 120 years to be a superhero. Because we don’t measure our lives in the number of days we have. We measure our lives in the impact of those days. In eight short years Sam was able to inspire hundreds of thousands of people. His battle brought national attention to a serious issue. And that is his legacy, an ordinary 8 year old superhero.

We have a gift, the most precious gift there is. We have been given the gift of life. It is up to us to use the time we have on this earth to transform ourselves into superheroes. We can transcend ourselves and our nature. We can triumph over our selfishness and shortcomings by helping those around us. We can be superheroes by making other people’s lives better. We can transform ourselves into angels and superheroes by helping others.

אלוּ דברים שאדם עושה אותם ואוכל פירותיהן בעולם

הזה והקרן קיימת לו לעולם הבאת ואלוּ הן: כיבוּד אב

ואם, וּגמילוּת חסדים והבאת שלום שבין אדם לחברו.

ותלמוּד תורה כנגד כוּלם

These are the precepts that a person performs and enjoys their fruits in this world and these are they: honoring father and mother, bringing peace between people, and acts of loving kindness.

May this be a year for us to work towards making a difference. May we be blessed to see our values put into action, and may we inspire others to act as well. May we be fortunate enough to see that our legacy is a good one, dedicated to helping others and to increasing God’s presence in the world. However long we have on this earth, may our lives be blessed to have an impact in this world and to help those around us. May we inspire selflessness and charity, may we be disguise ourselves in a cloak of honor and may we soar to heights of chesed. May the memory of Sam Sommer, the memory of an ordinary superhero inspire us to achieve greatness. And may his memory, and the memory of our lives always be for a blessing, and let us say…Amen.